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A Primer on Growing Children

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by Evita
 on Jun 18, 2008
 in Books, Inspiration, Parenting, Self Growth
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primercoverthumbnail.jpgMany people will agree that one of the greatest blessings in life are children. However, most of society is still structured in such a way today, where people think that the answer to having a fulfilled and complete existence is having children.

So, while many are caught up with the expectation of having children and busy planning them, very few people actually stop and think about the real preparation and impacts of having a child.

Unfortunately, when it comes to having kids, for many of us this longing for children stems from a very selfish decision, one that is often based on personal fulfillment, ownership and greed. Now that may sound harsh to some, but the truth is, this internal drive exists unconsciously in many of us, whether we are aware of it or not, and today goes beyond the basic evolutionary instinct.

That is why when I came across Rick Hurst’s e-book, “A Primer on Growing Children” a few months ago, I was really blown away by the compassion and wisdom that Rick presented in this short e-book.

Rick very intelligently structured the book where he compares having children to planting and caring for a seedling in a garden.  The ideas in it, are thus compiled in a very charming and elegant way, where one will quickly understand what Rick is talking about when it comes to parenting, without getting offended.

Why Read This Book?

The e-book is a must read for anyone who has ever thought of or is thinking of having children or already has children. There are no lessons, no classes or schools to go to in our society, in order to be a good parent. Many of us do it by observing others in society and not thinking twice about the bigger picture. Through this book, Rick gives us a very friendly user guide to have when it comes to being a parent or at least to seriously reflect upon it.

In this e-book, Rick takes us through the complete journey of having a child, from preparation for one, cultivation and observation of it and reaping the rewards of it in the end. As Rick beautifully states:

So, now our satisfaction is the knowledge of not only having grown our seedlings to full maturity, but having grown good gardeners who will go on to enrich the world after us.

We must all be aware, that there exists a bigger picture - one in which most of us complain about how uncontrollable our toddlers are or how rude, ungrateful, lost, angry or confused the teenagers are today. But do we forget - all those kids came from parents out there. And it is not about pointing fingers here and laying blame, but about waking up and taking back humanity through our children.

Thus, this book is one of those valuable hidden gems, filled with lots of good guidance and life experience when it comes to preparing for and having children. And the best part is, it will take you maybe an hour of your time to read and it is free, while the knowledge you gain from it will serve you greatly when it comes to parenting.

I also highly recommend this book as many people in today’s society take having children way too lightly. Being an educator and working with youth for several years now, I see the impacts of misguided, neglected and uncared for children on themselves and our society as a whole.

It is just too easy out there to have kids and too many of us are doing it for the wrong reasons. Consider the following reflection points:

Many of us today are having more kids than our work schedule or yearly income allows for. Who do you think pays the price the most for that?

Many of us today engage in all sorts of reckless behaviors, such as smoking and then complain our kids get sick. If you want this precious being to come through you, how can you be exposing it to toxins of any kind whether it be from the air they breathe to the food they eat?

Many of us today cannot figure out ourselves and as we bounce from one unstable relationship to the next, we bounce around our kids through that painful instability. So how do we not expect them to grow up angry, confused and feeling neglected?

Many of us today continue to destroy the environment, by not incorporating environmentally friendly habits and then bring children into this world to clean up our mess. How does that make sense?

We all have to realize that gone are the days where a family would perhaps “need” kids to work on the family farm or take over the family business.

Thus if only for a moment of reflection, I strongly urge you to read this book and examine your readiness and role as a parent or a parent-to-be.

Summary

For the average person in society, having children will probably remain a very evolutionarily driven, basic expectation, for still quite some time. But no matter what your reasons are, kids need to be seen as a blessing to your life not a burden. And if you cannot treat them that way, then you really need to re-examine your reasons for wanting or having them.

However, for those of us seeking to evolve further and live life out of an internal, personal fulfillment, rather than seeking fulfillment from external sources, there needs to be a higher consciousness put, into bringing in new life to this planet.

We cannot look towards our future kids to fulfill us, as that only puts an unfair burden of responsibility upon them. If you want to bring new life through you, then do so. But at the same time understand too that you cannot own, neglect, or abuse these beings in any way, as that only leads to pain on this planet - yours, theirs and all of humanities.

Kids indeed are a blessing and so let us take the proper time, effort and actions to treat them as the miracles that they are.

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5 Comments, Comment or Ping

  1. web design company says:

    Children are like sponges, they pick up on almost everything. Except for what you want them to learn.

    Jun 18th, 2008

  2. Evita says:

    Yes - this is very, very true that children are like sponges and pick up things very quickly.

    As for the reason they do not pick up what we want them to learn is because often times it is forced upon them and that is not our human being nature to do things that are forced upon us.

    If we want our kids to say or do the right things or act in a certain way WE have to be the strongest role models of that for them. The problem often times is parents tell the kids to do one thing, while they themselves do another. Kids are smarter than that and hence see right through that.

    Jun 19th, 2008

  3. Liara Covert says:

    This is a fascinating topic. Many human beings do envision a series of predictable steps that would supposedly define fulfillment. In Western societies in particular, these steps often include getting an eduacation, finding the right job, selectinging and marrying the right partner, living in the right place, having children and instilling your values. As a person learns to step back from images that are bombarded from media and messages imposed by people around you, its possible to reframe your choices and realize that meaning comes in everything you do, every choice you make or don’t make. None of this has to coincide with what other people would approve or disprove. You simply need to find yourself.

    Jun 19th, 2008

  4. Steve says:

    What, Where, When, How, Why, and Who To Remember To Be Happy

    A unique Spiritual text for children (of all ages) that leads them through the contemplation of who we are, what we know, what death is, and what true Happiness is. This book is also available on CD.

    Jul 29th, 2008

  5. Evita says:

    Thanks Steve - I will look into it!

    Jul 29th, 2008

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